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Fifteen Points for Friendship

by Paramabandhu

A useful look at the role friendship plays in our lives as practising Buddhists, following the classic FWBO '15 Points' model... A good-humoured, honest approach to understanding what the Buddha means when he talks about spirtual friendship being the whole of the spirtual life.

Talk given at Padmaloka Retreat Centre, May 2001

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1. Second thoughts about giving a talk on friendship; 15 points - guidelines not prescriptions (4:01) 
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2. Taking intiative and taking an interest; don't expect friendship - The Unseen Flower by Sangharakshita; striking a balance (8:09) 
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3. If you like someone, make friends with them; if you don't like someone, make friends with them (5:59) 
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4. Spiritual friendship is not based on the romantic ideal; going beyond being important to a friend (6:14) 
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5. Working together; going on retreat and holiday together; living together (5:39) 
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6. Eyeballing is not the whole story - the limitations of one-on-one; helping your friend (7:57) 
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7. Be faithful; keeping your friend in mind - not taking for granted (3:10) 
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8. Befriend their family; try to understand your friend from the inside - their own point-of-view (7:23) 
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9. Be prompt to resolve conflicts; forgive your friends; base friendships on common ideals (5:08) 
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10. Conclusion - Al Ghazali on friendship; Rodin's The Cathedral - the hands of friendship (4:16) 


Total running time: 57:56

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